Living options 

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• Until housing decisions are made you may find yourself cohabitating with your now ex-partner temporarily or long-term.​​

1. How can you live together?   

-  Enforcing boundaries is a helpful and healthy way to navigate living arrangements and can involve you and your former partner discussing rules around space, finances (starting to separate finances/bills/apple accounts/phones/car), meals, and time with kids.​​​​

 

Physical Space:

• Decide on separate sleeping arrangements (who sleeps where).

• Define personal spaces (e.g., one person uses the living room in the evening, the other in the morning).

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Time & Privacy:

• Set expectations for shared spaces—when and how you’ll use the kitchen, living room, or bathroom.

• Discuss how to handle visitors, including friends and family.

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 Parenting Time:

• If you have kids, create a schedule that mirrors post-separation custody arrangements.

• Avoid confusing children by being overly affectionate or giving mixed signals.

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Shared Accounts and Finances:

• Decide how you’ll divide shared expenses (e.g., utilities, rent/mortgage, groceries).

• Keep a spreadsheet to track expenses. 

• Consider shared Apple accounts, subscriptions, etc. and negotiate how they will split/closed.

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